MY HUNCH: SOCIAL MEDIA & CHATS

When I hear SOCIAL MEDIA I experience EXPECTATION in caps (very close to anxiety).  

 I feel absolutely terrible to reveal some true guidelines of my social media silhouette’s posture, but I have to be honest and this will be an answer to many that I made experience rejection. The most terrible emotion you can let someone experience.


I really, honestly appreciate every hit, view, like and comment but please don’t feel I don’t take note of every personal expression and thoughts you share about the topic and contribution to any of my published content. I became ungenerous with my time, simply because I'm dealing with physical and emotional challenges myself. Major ones. 

I use to have a list of activities that created moments of passion before the accident:
- Time on the beach with the dogs and awesome quality-time with God
- Surfing
- Kayaking 
- Skydiving
- Hiking with the dogs (with a gun on my side for baboons, which the dogs didn’t fear) 

and the above changed after the accident to:
- Creating Video Material inspire by showcasing normal days where subconscious messages are hauled. 
- Art
- Writing 
- Daily struggle between ego and soul to regain my significant and momentous relationship and connection with God. 
*but even the above activities I engaged after the accident faded. 

“Where the mind goes the body will follow”  - this is the most difficult part the whole excersize, that what has been handed to me as a “life-lesson”, a “test”. To focus and choose where you want your mind to go so that your body can follow when you are in the situation - this is the most difficult mission you soul can endeavor to succeed in this unwritten law “body will follow”. 

If you realize that “I actually got out of a trance and I hope its a dream”, you already lost the way, you are no longer on the path you should be and then another challenge; find the way back and you wish in your heart that you’d get to a road with no obstacles or a river with no falls but reality kicks in after all the day-dreaming; a journey without obstacles - get real Jacques.  (Well at least one with fewer obstacles please God?) 

I sound like an old vinal full of scratches when it comes to the “taking a break from Social media”, so I must change the repetition and every 3rd month tantrum with a plan, a plan that I can stick to and that’ll work for myself and my followers because at this stage I'm extremely selfish, something that's not part of my blueprint when it comes to social media. But there are limits when it comes to a share. I'm not narrowing it down to “social media share”, I'm narrowing it down to everything but...

Chat-platforms: I have this urge to long press the WhatsApp icon on my home screen until it shakes and hit the little grey x to delete the app and my answer will be YES to the pop-up window: “Are you sure you want to permanently delete WhatsApp including its contents”. But there’s no way I can really do this. Some close friends and specific departments in my business use WhatsApp groups as the primary method of communication so that all employees stay up to date simultaneously. That's the advantage of WhatsApp group posts. ...but; The “online” appears (even when I'm busy with staff). Where my irritation with the application started was when it became popular after BBM and every second person pronounced it in all the wrong ways: Whatzap, Whatzupp.... there’s many wrong pronounciations. Its Whats App people. Look at the spelling! The “Whats” “Application”. - “send me a WhatsUp with your email address” ~ noooooo, I’ll send you a sms. 

I tried to customize my privacy in this app in all ways but still, that “online” part bugs me. 
Then there’s messenger and all the other chat platforms with the “last seen” tracker. 

I moved key-staff to “WorkPlace by Facebook” I'm thrilled about the Workplace’s Work Chat app where I can communicate with my staff in private without someone send a message “why don’t respond to my messages”, because I don’t appear online *grin*.The weird phrases: “how are you”, “whats wrong”, “you are so quiet”, WMJ” are non-existent.  If I engage and reply with a “I'm good and yourself”, its like stepping into a landmine on the Mexico border; at least 30 minutes of messages back and forth and sometimes the hour of productivity is a wreck after that because I actually had to give my staff one instruction... Wash reception’s curtains today, please. By the time I'm done with all the replies I have to make a note and move the ToDo to tomorrow. There are only a few people that get the concept of a quick chat. You can feel the pist-off-ness through binary when you say “I have to run, chat again soon” People feel rejected and thats not my intention. That's why a phone call will do it. If Someone doesn't answer it means they are busy and you’ll get a call as soon as that person is available. Same with a video-call. In both cases the tone of voice and facial expressions on the video call says everything. If you are busy or you have to run. you can say it without the other person experiencing rejection. Isn’t that better than the social media whats upp scenarios? 

I get the message out there by means of Vlogs, Blogs and on a more shorter thought-note, Tweets which can also answer the “how are you?” Question. I honestly appreciate every hit, view, like and comment but please don’t feel I don’t take note of every personal expression, thoughts and contribution to my content. 

After long hours and hard work keeping my content up to date, I realized that that's not where it end. I’d do a motivational speaking session and I'm more than willing to do a Q&A session too but I have to block a couple of days in my schedule for such an event and I’ll do that with the biggest pleasure. I just can't keep up with the every-day social platform pace. If I did this for a living, by all means, but at this stage, I have to make a living with something “real” (not that I say an online presence is not reality).  

My days are packed on my own asteroid with its few inhabitants. Im dealing with my broken body, the unexplainable excruciating pain paralyzing my life and eating away on my body like cancer, our household, staff, admin, art, working on my book and when I get a gap and trying to catch up with an hour or two’s sleep when pain gets board and decide it needs company through some silly hours of the night - and some of the strongest pain-killers won't knok my visitor out or make him understand to leave on which “he/she/it” don’t get the message. I barely get a break to get in the car to go buy groceries for the house; so even our fridges are dysfunctional at this stage. 
Then the big fragment, actually the biggest; the slag in giving undivided attention to Spirit like I use to, the time I had for Him. I'm trying, I'm really trying and I'm busy getting there making Spirit a bigger part of my activities and engaging in such a manner. 

I hope this makes it clear why I cant attend to all my messages and comments. Please, it's nothing personal. It is what it is; TIME!!
There are words repeating themselves over and over “❛Thank You❜ for being such an inspiration”, “❛Thank You❜ for changing my perspective in life”, “Thank You for making me appreciate again” And there are a few more lines and THAT makes me feel terrible when I cant be there or don’t get a message out there that can make a difference, that Of which I believe I'm appointed for. 

Taking a back-track to my “Paralyzed Journey” mission, which includes a presence on basically all platforms; It started as just a thought, the cover of different mediums of messages that showcase my expedition, the “my book of my life”   
I am extremely blessed having all these followers, exactly what I asked for, that of which I knew will be the start of making a huge difference in two main categories:
- Have gratitude, don’t take anything for granted
- Everything you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for
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I thought I'm ready for this. Am I? I never knew that there will be so many people in need, desperate for a bit of inspiration and/or guidance, to give them hope and show the world out there that tradigy can be overcome and that Paralyzed Journey would grow at a radical pace that it would need more attention I thought would be enough, a couple of hours and here and there that need be. 

I’ll stop posting content on my personal Facebook “Profile” and I’ll eventually close it down, so hit the like on www.facebook.com/paralyzedjourney/ and subscribe to my newsletter at www.jacquesviljoen.co.za