The calorie-obsessed body vs
I've got a bit more around my hips than the down to earth guy! Take a good look at the picture, click it, zoom it - you'll see the "bit more"... (DTE - just wrong terminology; rather say, "not pumped in the gym" NPIG)
Read the article and get the full picture! "
No thank you" (not for not being a nice guy) because of "bit more" around the hips!
Don't get me wrong - I LOVE to exercise and look after "how I look"Look after your body for yourself - Not to be accepted by some or other socialistic "trend"!
HAVE A GOOD, STUNNING PUMPED BODY,
I LOVE IT - but - if the chemistry is there, *reminder*, it's more than physical!
Not so long ago: (talking about days) “Sorry Jacques, the physical body is very important to me”; my torso is not the “v-line, cut, hard” type, “and unfortunately I will have difficulty dealing with your body (referring to my tummy) in the future, even if I say it’s okay now, I know myself”. What the fuck! That was one hectic insult, and it got me going in my head! This person haven’t seen me a month ago when I weighed 98, comparing to the 89kg’s today!
I’ve got various reasons, which is actually NOT reasons, and justification assists me emotionally and physically… I’m definitely channelling an old boere-tannie whilst I spend time in the kitchen. I’m a master in cooking traditional food (apologies for the egoistic comment):
Leg of lamb; Stuffed Fillet, Baked Potatoes, Pumpkin Fritters, Green Beans, Cabbage, Cauliflower & Broccoli in a thick and creamy cheese sauce, Apricot Sponge Pudding, any creamy fridge tart, name the traditional dishes; then it comes to the essential ingredients: Salted Butter (fuck low fat milk and margarines) and Cream; and so I taught my chefs to do the same… Now the whole channelling exercise becomes a pyramid scheme – they are definitely channelling me after training!
Then I asked myself the question: “if you meet someone with the impeccable (of what we can observe, analyse and perceive) Ambition, Devoted Personality traits, Intelligence Equivalent, Sensory Equivalent and the most important, EQ – Emotional Equivalent; am I willing to work on the relationship and activate the feeling of being fit and living a healthy lifestyle with that person and sort out the 5kg overweight issue? I think it’s reasonable and I’m willing to do that if the above-mentioned “Q’s” are in place and I see that this person's treatment of my heart will be of the healthy kind; GO for it then!
The following is a perception, maybe yours differ, but my prayer is "God, grant me patience on my journey to find a better half to fit the JacqueQ family, being a good husband and second dad to my kids"
There is only one thing that keeps gay men in shape: fear. Yes....
Gay men are afraid that they will be alone for the rest of their lives. If a gay man is not "serving body" while competing to find a trick or boyfriend in one of the more muscle-bound climates of gay culture, he will be sorely shut out. That is why gay men don't get fat, because
if they don't have v-lines, good package, and pure muscle, they're going home alone.
Gay men, unlike their straight counterparts, don't have the luxury to stay in "fighting shape" just long enough to find a partner before letting their bodies fall to shit afterwards. No, gay men have to get buff, get married, and stay buff. Why? Because of three-ways, obviously.
There are countless committed gay couples out there who like to either play on the side or invite guest stars into their beds, and according to me; I'll rather enjoy a day on a lawn full of shit and have a full-day pick nick, enjoying a coke and cigarette, cucumber sandwiches, play volleyball with the kids and ball with the dogs out there. And you're not going to get any A-list guest stars if you're giving D-list torso with a four-star gut. Yes, gay men go to the gym to stay competitive, but since the man-eating marathon doesn't end after marriage, they just keep on competing and competing until death do they part.
The funny thing about the gay competition is that, because men (especially of the gay variety) are so visually stimulated, the only piece on the chess board that matters is having that traditional lean body. If straight men are lacking in some area, they usually make up for it by becoming rich or powerful, things that some women find just as attractive as a washboard stomach dusted with natural body hair. But for gay men, only body will do.
If a gay guy is a little short, his solution is to go to the gym.
Got a shitty job? Go to the gym.
Busted in the face? Head to the gym and no one will look above your neck.
Totally shy and doesn't socialize well? Gym, oukie, gym!
A good body is the only currency in this game.
What also makes this unique for gay men is one of the other strange quirks of homosexuality. Gay men are attracted to, essentially, themselves. No straight man wants to look like a woman (and certainly not the reverse) but gay men find what they are physically attracted to and often remake their bodies in the image of their ideal mate. Since society tells us to want muscle-bound athletes, that's what gays want, and that's what they make themselves look like in the pursuit of their ideal. If you want to bed muscles you have to have muscles, if you want to land an attractive oak,
you better be one.
Still, gay men come in all shapes and sizes but still gay culture and
iconography is largely dominated by the same juiced-out body type! While there are plenty of average-physiqued gay guys...
The common saying: "All in a nutshell": Look past the 5kg's, look at the person and his intentions...
"I can change my weight in a months time, but can you change your emotional intelligence in a year?"
something might cause you to never gym again - what then? Will you be okay?